Resources

BOOKS FOR PRESCHOOLERS

Bernard, by Bernard Waber. Bernard the dog runs away while his owners argue about who will keep him when they break up.
Dinosaur's Divorce, by Lawrence Brown. Through a dinosaur family, the writer of the Arthur children's books explains divorce in a simple and straightforward way.
Tots Are Non-Divorceable: A Workbook for Divorced Parents and Their Children, Ages Birth to Five Years, by Sara Bonkowski

Divorce Happens To The Nicest Kids, by M.D. Prokop
How Does It Feel When Your Parents Get Divorced, by Terry Berger
I Have Two Families, by D. Herering
It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear, by Vicky Lansky. A "read-together book" for parent and child.
Mom and Dad Don't Live Together Any More, by K. Stinson
I Don't Want To Talk About It, by Jeanie Franz Ransome

The Boys And Girls Book About Divorce, by R. Gardner. Normalizing information and advice from a child psychiatrist for children going through divorce.
Divorce Can Happen To The Nicest People, by Peter Mayle
The Divorce Express, by Paula Danziger. Phoebe's life changes when her parents divorce and she spends time with her father far away from her home and boyfriend.
How To Get It Together When Your Parents Divorce, by Arlene Richards and Irene Willis
My Parents Are Divorced, Too, by Bonnie Robson
My Parents Still Love Me Even Though They Are Getting Divorced, by Dr. Lois Nightingale
When Divorce Hits Home, by Thea Joselow and Beth Joselow. Written by a daughter and mother about one teenager's experience with divorce and how she dealt with it.

Between Love and Hate: A Guide to a Civilized Divorce, by Lois Gold. Offers guidance to those going through divorce on improving communication, effective negotiation, and conflict resolution. Covers legal, financial and emotional issues.
Caught in the Middle, by C. Garrity and M. Barris
Crazy Time, by Abigail Trafford. A personal and academic account of the emotional and practical struggles of men and women going through divorce.
The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart, by Constance Ahrons.
Living Through Your Divorce, by Earl Grollman and Marjorie Sams

But...What About Me! (How it Feels to be a Kid in Divorce), by Bonnie Doss
Child Custody: Building Parenting Agreements that Work (3rd Ed.), by Mimi E. Lyster [Nolo Press, Jan 2000].
Co-Parenting: Sharing Your Child Equally, by Miriam Galper
The Divorce Decisions Workbook, by Margorie Louise Engel and Diana Delhi Gould. A planning and action guide. Contains extensive forms for information-gathering and decisionmaking.
Helping Your Child Succeed After Divorce, by Florence Bienenfeld
Joint Custody with a Jerk, by Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran. Excellent suggestions for examining each parent's role in ongoing parental disputes. Communication skills for dealing with a difficult ex-spouse. "Not just for people who have joint custody and not just for jerks."
Mom's House, Dad's House: A Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced or Remarried, by Isolina Ricci. A practical guide to setting up two-home parenting arrangement. Useful for parents whether or not joint custody is chosen. Includes guiding principles for co-parenting and maps out emotional stages and milestones from the time of separation through remarriage.
Sharing The Children: How To Resolve Custody Problems And Get On With Your Life, by Robert Adler
Shared Parenthood After Divorce, by Ciji Ware

A Divorced Dad's Survival Book: How to Stay Connected to Your Kids, by David Knox
Every Other Weekend, by Kenneth F. Parker and Van Jones. Written by divorced fathers to help other divorced fathers confront pain and loss, understand their children's feelings and accept their changed role in their children's lives.
101 Ways to be a Long Distance Super-Dad...Or Mom, Too!, by George Newman. Simple and practical tips for keeping close with a child after divorce.
Long Distance Parenting: A Guide For Divorced Parents, by Miriam Galper Cohen

Divorce Mediation, by Jay Folberg and Ann Milne, Editors
Divorce Mediation, How To Cut The Costs And Stress Of Divorce, by Diane Neumann
A Guide To Divorce Mediation, by Gary J. Friedman, J.D.
Renegotiating Family Relationships, Divorce, Child Custody, And Mediation, by Robert E. Emery

Information about Oregon's Child Support Program.
http://www.dcs.state.or.us
A resource for parents in developing age-appropriate parenting plans, child support and court facilitators.
http://www.ojd.state.or.us/osca/familylaw
Provides information about PERS including calculators and information about division of retirement at divorce.
http://oregon.gov/PERS/
The Oregon State Bar provides general information about legal issues as well as referrals for attorneys. If you are in need of legal advice and have limited resources you may want to inquire about the "modest means program."
http://www.osbar.org/
The Oregon Family Institute (OFI) is a private, nonprofit agency that offers information on resources for collaborative custody evaluations and parenting coordinators.
http://www.oregonfamilyinstitute.org/
A source of helpful information about taxes and divorce, earned income credits, childcare deductions, and dependency deductions.
http://www.irs.ustreas.gov